"To become wholly compassionate we must
force ourselves to look directly into the face of suffering. Only
then will we see our reflection and know that the hurt of others is
equal to our own." - Stepaniak
There
are a lot of good support sites out there for a vegetarian
lifestyle. Your best bet is to start on message boards and ask
questions specific to your problem.
Here are a few links to a number of messages boards I found useful
in planning our vegan wedding: